Sexual energy can be harnessed and used for manifesting your desires, but first, you need to transmute it. This slow, mindful process takes practice but is well worth the effort. Start by meditating, using your breath or a mantra to focus inward. Next, notice sensations in your body that signal increased sexual energy and gently wrap your consciousness around the energy.
The goal is to feel a sense of control over the sensations so that you can use visualization to identify an activity you want to redirect the energy towards. Sexual energy can be used for more than just sex, like helping you feel creative and tackle passion projects. It’s also a powerful driving force to help you manifest your goals.
Start with extended sensation play and clitoral stimulation if you’re trying to squirt. This increases the storage of fluid in the urethral sponge that’s released during squirting.
1. Meditation
Whether you’re looking to boost your libido, become more multi-orgasmic, or squirt like a pro, there’s much more to sexual energy than just sending flirtatious “voulez-vous coucher avec moi?” vibes. You can get much more out of it by cultivating a relationship with your sexual energy, which isn’t just about pheromones.
Meditation is a great way to get in tune with your body and practice noticing when you have sexy feelings. It can also help you become more open to experiencing sexual pleasure through erotic self-touch. Practice noticing the electricity that builds with a lighter touch or the deepening and spreading of energy with firmer touches.
Try a few different meditation practices and find one that speaks to you. It can be as simple as listening to erotic music, practicing mindfulness of sensations with a self-scan meditation, or working up to orgasm control, which involves deliberately bringing yourself to the edge of orgasm without reaching it. This builds large amounts of highly focused transmutable energy and improves the ability to manifest your goals.
2. Breathing
If you want to feel more sexual energy, a simple practice like breathing can make a big difference. Sit comfortably and observe how your body moves as you inhale and exhale. Often, when we are in a state of high arousal, our breathing becomes shallow and fast.
This is when it’s most important to slow down and breathe deeply. Counting your breaths, focusing on the inhale and exhale, and matching your partner’s circular breathing patterns during masturbation can create a powerful energy flow. This can help you stay in the moment and delay climax for more fabulous orgasms.
Getting in touch with your sexual energy can also fuel other passion projects, including tackling big goals and helping you to overcome burnout. In the study, women who reported squirting also talked about feeling like a “superhero” and experiencing an awakening of their sexuality. This is what we call creating positive sexual energy, and it’s great for your body and mind! And remember, sexual energy is creative energy. So you can use it for anything.
3. Massage
Massage is the stroking, kneading, warming, and rolling skin and muscles to relax or revitalize. It’s a popular treatment on spa menus and has numerous health benefits, from reducing muscle pain to improving circulation. In our study, women squirted fluid after being stimulated in the vagina or on the clitoris, and many of them said they had a mixed reaction to this experience.
Some women reported needing to urinate, and others were surprised by the volume of the fluid expelled. Whether you do a full-body tantric massage or zoom in and focus on the lingam (male genitals), massaging can help you to harness sexual energy and create more pleasure for yourself or your partner.
Tantric massage encourages mindfulness, taking you out of your mind and into your body, allowing you to stay focused on the moment and increase your connection with your sexual energy. It also helps to break down barriers between you and your partner by encouraging communication and feedback. This is vital for creating an arousing and sensual connection.
4. Visualization
Visualization is a practice where you create mental images of what you want to manifest. Your mind can’t distinguish between real and imagined, so it will act on your desires as if they are already happening to you. This is why visualization has been critical to many athletes’ success, like basketball players who increase their shooting percentages just by practicing in their heads.
Some women may be able to recognize their sexual energy innately, but for others, it can take some time and effort. Breath exercises, meditation, and activities that encourage mindfulness can help you tune into your sensual energy. Then, once you’ve identified it, you can work on shifting it into something more constructive. It doesn’t have to be creative; it could be a workout in the gym, a gardening project, or even a new artistic endeavor. But whatever it is, the redirected sexual energy will likely feel much like a rush of adrenaline that you might get from a good workout or the creative process.
